By Something Social (595 words)Posted in Life on February 28, 2014
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Happy Friday & the last day of February!
This month for my happiness project, I focused on Love & Patience. Gretchen also chose this topic & I figured it was perfect for mine as well. No, not because it’s the shortest month, well maybe :)
If you ask any of my friends prior to a year ago, I was the type of person that never wanted to live with someone before I was married. “What could possibly be so different?” was one of my key phrases. Well I sure am glad that I changed my mind and chose to move in with Chris. I can’t say my father was happy but that’s another topic entirely.
Everyone says the first year of marriage is the hardest. I believe it’s because back in the olden days that also coincided with their first year of living together. I’m happy to say only 3 more months to go before we hit a year. It can’t come soon enough!
I focused of two main things this month:
One of the most significant things I’ve learned while living with Chris and being in a serious relationship is that no matter how hard you try, you can never change someone. I never thought I would be the couple that fought over doing the dishes or taking the trash out, but somehow those topics always seemed to creep into our everyday life. I often found that the reason I was nagging about topics such as these was because I was feeling stressed about other aspects of my life and Chris seemed to be the only one there to take it out on. (I would never yell at our angel cats). This month I tried to change my perspective. I tried to think about what I would say before I said it or think, “If I come home and the dishes are still in the sink, does it really matter?” Usually the answer was no. Once I started this thought process things started to drastically improve. While all these little things tend to add up and some make me crazy, sometimes it’s just not worth the fight. I’d rather snuggle up on the couch and have a nice night together than feel the tension in the room for something that is just not worth the time or energy. It’s easy to get caught up in the minutia oflife, every once in a while you need to take a step back and just enjoy where you are in the process.
Everyone talks about “not taking your significant other for granted” & those words never clicked for me until Chris and I moved in together. It is so easy to not appreciate someone that you see every day. You start to take the little things for granted and start to expect them. Now I make a point to thank him and give him praise when deserved. Love and kindness will take you a lot farther in life than any other actions. If you consistently show the love and appreciation of your partner, (pick up things you know they will like at the grocery store without being asked, be the first to make the coffee, leave love notes before you leave the house) you’ll find that your home will be a happier place to be and in turn make you a happier person.
After two months, I’m feeling great (maybe better if it would EVER stop snowing). By being a happier person, I’m better enabled to make others happy.
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